Signs to Be Aware Of

Signs that someone may be controlling:
  • The person has said their partner is jealous.
  • They have cut them off from family and friends.
  • They always pick them up and drop them off wherever they go.
  • They get angry if the person is a bit late.
  • They always tell the person they are wrong and put them down.
  • They make it hard for you to spend time with the person on your own. Or they put everyone in a bad mood when you are there.
  • They are always posting on the person’s Facebook page. The person has told you the partner can get at their account. Or you think this is happening.
  • You have seen them get angry over something that did not seem that important.
  • They control the money in the relationship.
A person is being abused if:
  • They are scared to be themselves or:
  • They do not do things because they are scared of what their partner might do. 
What a person suffering from domestic abuse may be feeling or experiencing:
  • They may always feel scared that there will be more violence or that their children are not safe.
  • They may think it is their fault and that if they change the domestic abuse will stop.
  • They may be confused because they love their partner but hate the abuse. They may be hoping that the partner’s good side will come back.
  • They may depend on their partner for money and to feel good about themselves.
  • Many people feel shame, guilt, embarrassment.
  • They may feel hopeless and so find it hard to make decisions about the future.
  • People often think no one will believe them.
  • They may worry that if they ask for help they will never see their children again.
  • Men may feel they are not real men. They may not believe they are a victim. Gay men suffer worse violence than men who are not gay.
  • In a same-sex relationship the partner may say they will tell the person’s family, friends and colleagues that they are gay.