Signs to Be Aware Of
Signs that someone may be controlling:
- The person has said their partner is jealous.
- They have cut them off from family and friends.
- They always pick them up and drop them off wherever they go.
- They get angry if the person is a bit late.
- They always tell the person they are wrong and put them down.
- They make it hard for you to spend time with the person on your own. Or they put everyone in a bad mood when you are there.
- They are always posting on the person’s Facebook page. The person has told you the partner can get at their account. Or you think this is happening.
- You have seen them get angry over something that did not seem that important.
- They control the money in the relationship.
A person is being abused if:
- They are scared to be themselves or:
- They do not do things because they are scared of what their partner might do.
If someone is in immediate danger, call 999
National Domestic Violence Helpline 0808 2000 247
If you are worried about a child in Cambridgeshire call 0345 045 5203
What a person suffering from domestic abuse may be feeling or experiencing:
- They may always feel scared that there will be more violence or that their children are not safe.
- They may think it is their fault and that if they change the domestic abuse will stop.
- They may be confused because they love their partner but hate the abuse. They may be hoping that the partner’s good side will come back.
- They may depend on their partner for money and to feel good about themselves.
- Many people feel shame, guilt, embarrassment.
- They may feel hopeless and so find it hard to make decisions about the future.
- People often think no one will believe them.
- They may worry that if they ask for help they will never see their children again.
- Men may feel they are not real men. They may not believe they are a victim. Gay men suffer worse violence than men who are not gay.
- In a same-sex relationship the partner may say they will tell the person’s family, friends and colleagues that they are gay.