Child to Parent Violence and Abuse

Child to parent violence and abuse (CPA) may also be referred to as ‘adolescent to parent violence (APV)’ ‘adolescent violence in the home (AVITH)’, ‘parent abuse’, or ‘battered parent syndrome’.
 
There is currently no legal definition of child to parent violence and abuse. However, it is increasingly recognised as a form of domestic violence and abuse and, depending on the age of the child, it may fall under the government’s official definition of domestic violence and abuse It is important to recognise that CPA is likely to involve a pattern of behaviour.
 
This can include physical violence from an adolescent towards a parent and a number of different types of abusive behaviours. Violence and abuse can occur together or separately. Abusive behaviours can encompass, but are not limited to, humiliating language and threats, belittling a parent, damage to property, stealing from a parent and heightened sexualised behaviours.
 
However, some families might experience episodes of explosive physical violence from their child with fewer controlling, abusive behaviours.
 
 
The term 'child' in this case also refers to adult children.  Grandparents can also experience the abuse from grandchildren,
 
 

 

Help and Support in Cambridgeshire & Peterborough 

YMCA Trinity are running a new project in Cambridgeshire called the Family Respect Project - working with children and young people aged 10 to 16 years of age, who display any abusive behaviours towards their parents and carers, and other people in their family.  The focus is to support families who are experiencing child to parent abuse with a particular focus on working with the child or young person to facilitate change and growth within the family as a wider system.   Referral to the Family Respect Project is by professional referral only so talk to your social worker, family worker or other professional.

Yvonne Newbold MBE (http://www.yvonnenewbold.com/) has easily accessible resources for parents to understand the behaviours they see in their child, and has developed strategies to support parents where their child has diagnosed, or suspected neurodevelopmental conditions

Other sources of support
 

PEGS has been set up to support both parents and professionals deal with the issues associated with child to parent abuse. They have awareness and training sessions help people to learn new tools and techniques when dealing with abusive children, what policies are out there to assist families, and what other support networks and frameworks exist in the UK.

https://sites.google.com/pegsupport.com/pegs?fbclid=IwAR0XuUaR27ojak9QjTQeS61m77ni0csrn3iSX9wZUCbTvb1udnXeOL03shY

 

The SEND VCB Project supports families of violent children who also have an additional need to help their child be happier & calmer.. They have over 300 success stories and a Facebook group for parents - https://www.facebook.com/groups/421839288150939/

 

The Connective Parenting group is for any and all parents wanting a more connective way to parent. Based on the Non Violent Resistance or NVR approach it helps parents to connect with their child and manage any difficult behaviours gently. It is a therapeutic way of parenting that engages the child to develop positive self confidence and helps create a harmonious family life. The group is supportive, not judgemental. 

https://www.facebook.com/groups/connectiveparentingusingNVR

 

 The POTATO group | Parents Of Traumatised Adopted Teens Organisation. are a UK based group of parents who have adopted our children from the looked after system in the past 20+ years parentingadoptedteens@gmail.com

 

Capa is an online platform for families impacted by child to parent abuse and professionals supporting them Child To Parent Abuse | Capa First Response CIC